Even if you think you do not need to save your relationship you never know what is around the corner. By doing this for 30 minutes each day, you will effectively be ensuring your relationship lasts a lifetime.
I am not oblivious to the fact that there are many other factors that effect longevity in relationships but by implementing this into your daily routine will inject a deeper understanding of each other.
What does your routine look like between 5-6pm? Does one partner arrive home from work around this time? Do both of you arrive home around this time? Does one or both of you work from home and this is the time where you stop working and re-engage into the daily routine?
No matter what dynamics occurs in your family this method applies to everyone. Russell and I have worked hard to ensure our relationship is our number one priority. This means that our relationship is valued more importantly than anything else in our lives.
Several years ago we established a daily debrief into our daily weekday routine (Russell works Monday to Friday but you can apply this to any day of the week).
This means that for 30 minutes each day after Russell arrives home from work we sit down together and debrief each other about our day. Basically we get 15 minutes each to talk about how our day was, if there were any eventful moments and whether there was anything that impacted negatively or positively on us.
This time together brings us closer and allows us to understand how each other is feeling and whether the other needs more emotional support or feedback after a really difficult day. Being able to share the days events with each other is vital for healthy communication in any relationship.
Having set an open and honest space to allow for sharing personal moments can build trust, energy, closeness and support which strengthens your relationship.
It has been during these debriefs where I have learnt about moments that have impacted Russell in an emotional way and by allowing him to be able to share these moments with me gives him the opportunity to offload the stress and seek validation and support when needed.
We are very good at keeping things to ourselves and answering with "Fine" when asked "How are you?" Sometimes we are not fine and we need that opportunity to offload to someone we trust.
If you have children make sure they are aware that this time is important to you both and that they are not to interrupt you unless it is an emergency. I realise that they may be too young to understand this however there are things you can do to prevent interruptions while you chat.
I would love to hear your stories on how implementing this into your daily routine managed to save your relationship. Feel free to add your comments below or send me an email.
Natasha xox
