Here are ten heartfelt statements that your husband/partner would love to hear you say. After speaking with numerous boyfriends and husbands, it appears we all have different ways of talking to our wives, girlfriends or boyfriends in order to make them feel appreciated, valued and respected. I wanted to write this from a guy’s perspective and after a bit of research here are the ten heartfelt statements that we would like to hear from our wives/girlfriends or partners.
- “I love being your wife.”
As simple as it sounds, husbands want to know that their wives are content in their marriage and truly enjoy just being with them. When is the last time you thanked your husband for marrying you? Don’t just assume he can read your mind. Tell him!
- “You’re an outstanding father.”
Deep in the heart of every man is the desire to be seen as a hero—especially to his children. Specifically, tell your husband why he is your kids’ hero. And tonight, at dinner, tell your children why he is so awesome.
- “I’m really attracted to you. You are the man!”
It’s a myth that men are more conscience of their looks than women. As guys’ hairlines begin to recede and stomachs start protruding, they can become quite sensitive about their appearance. Never vocally compare your husband to Jabba the Hut. Tell him he’s “hot” and how attracted you are to him, you will definitely boost his ego and confidence.
- “I really respect the decision you made.”
When a man makes a decision, especially a tough one, he doesn’t want his wife being critical of it or questioning him about it. He wants to know that his wife is behind him and admires his ability to make good decisions.
- “I know how important it is to live within our means. I’m with you on this.”
Your husband is concerned about the future of your family. So that means he is concerned about taking care of his family financially. Having a wife he can rely on to spend and save wisely is a tremendous comfort to him. You are both on the same team and your aim is for the both of you to win
- “I’m so grateful for your spiritual leadership.”
All of us are hardwired for a relationship with God, and many men want to be seen as the spiritual caretakers of their families. Encourage your husband in his faith and for taking his role as a spiritual leader seriously.
- “You are so wise.”
Many men are born problem solvers and relish the process of thinking through something and arriving at a solution. This, incidentally, is why your husband is always trying to “fix” your problems when all you want him to do is listen. Recognizing your husband’s mental prowess and complimenting him on his intelligence will pay massive dividends to you. Emphasize to him that you trust his wise judgment.
- “I appreciate how hard you work to provide for our family.”
There are many things in life that your husband cannot control, but one he can control is effort. It brings him great pleasure to work hard and see the results. To directly control and be the man responsible for creating something from nothing thrills him. Encourage his great work ethic.
- “Thank you very much for helping me with that.”
When a man serves his wife, he wants her to recognize it. A simple thank you is all he needs.
- “I’m impressed with how you handled that situation.”
Sometimes a wife will point out when her husband does not handle something well. So when he handles a particularly difficult situation well, let him know.
We would love to hear your heartfelt statements that you make to your husband/partner often by leaveing them in the comments box below or send an email to Russell and tell him about it. This blog post was written by Russell.