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Save your relationship in 30 minutes a day!

Save your relationship in 30 minutes a day!

Even if you think you do not need to save your relationship you never know what is around the corner.  By doing this for 30 minutes each day, you will effectively be ensuring your relationship lasts a lifetime.

I am not oblivious to the fact that there are many other factors that effect longevity in relationships but by implementing this into your daily routine will inject a deeper understanding of each other.

What does your routine look like between 5-6pm?  Does one partner arrive home from work around this time?  Do both of you arrive home around this time?  Does one or both of you work from home and this is the time where you stop working and re-engage into the daily routine?

No matter what dynamics occurs in your family this method applies to everyone.

Russell and I have worked hard to ensure our relationship is our number one priority.  This means that our relationship is valued more importantly than anything else in our lives.  Several years ago we established a daily debrief into our daily weekday routine (Russell works Monday to Friday but you can apply this to any day of the week).

This means that for 30 minutes each day after Russell arrives home from work we sit down together and debrief each other about our day.  Basically we get 15 minutes each to talk about how our day was, if there were any eventful moments and whether there was anything that impacted negatively or positively on us.

This time together brings us closer and allows us to understand how each other is feeling and whether the other needs more emotional support or feedback after a really difficult day.  Being able to share the days events with each other is vital for healthy communication in any relationship.

Having set an open and honest space to allow for sharing personal moments can build trust, energy, closeness and support which strengthens your relationship.

It has been during these debriefs where I have learnt about moments that have impacted Russell in an emotional way and by allowing him to be able to share these moments with me gives him the opportunity to offload the stress and seek validation and support when needed.

We are very good at keeping things to ourselves and answering with “Fine” when asked “How are you?”  Sometimes we are not fine and we need that opportunity to offload to someone we trust.

If you have children make sure they are aware that this time is important to you both and that they are not to interrupt you unless it is an emergency.  I realise that they may be too young to understand this however there are things you can do to prevent interruptions while you chat.

I would love to hear your stories on how implementing this into your daily routine managed to save your relationship.  Feel free to add your comments below or send me an email.

Natasha xox

Empty nest

My baby isn’t a baby anymore!

As I sit here looking out the window at another glorious day here in Canterbury, I reminisce about the time long passed where my babies were completely dependent on me for their well being.  A time where I was their whole world, a world which they thought revolved around them and maybe it did.  A time where I consciously gave up my desire to follow my passion to focus on being there for them 100%.  A time when the last thing you think about is having an empty nest. Continue reading

What is a Romantic Getaway?

A Romantic Getaway is one where you are alone together without distractions to spend quality time to focus on each other.  An ideal location would be somewhere secluded, away from noises and distractions that would lead your mind to wander.  Having a getaway with no cell phone coverage is ideal as you are not tempted to look at your Facebook page every hour for updates. Continue reading